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So, what exactly is an introvert?

Introvert Pride

The fact you landed on Introvert Pride, my recently launched online hub for introverts the world over, likely means one of the following:

  • You stumbled upon the topic of introversion at some point and want to explore it in depth, including whether you, your partner, or someone else you know fits the criteria.
  • You've already determined you are indeed an introvert and want to learn tips for navigating what is really an extrovert-friendly world.
  • Perhaps you're doing a project or research paper for a psychology course that calls for information on introversion
Whatever your reasons for being here, I am delighted you've joined us!

As I mentioned in my initial post, I set out to create a page where introverts can feel valued and accepted for who they are -- where they feel no need to apologize for their mild-mannered personality, preference for gathering their thoughts before speaking, desire for solitude, or bookish tendencies. 

I wish I'd had a site like this at my disposal in my youth. But here's good news for you: Whether you're 14, 41, or 92, whether you've known you're an introvert for decades or mere days, you've come to the site where you're sure to feel at home with people just like you.

At Introvert Pride, you will comfortable in your own skin. My posts will (hopefully) empower you to go out into the world and embrace your truest self rather than faking extroversion just to fit in with the crowd. 

Sadly, far too many people go down the latter path, relinquishing their identity in the process. 

I knew from an early age that I was a bit different than my more gregarious peers. I didn't feel the urge to draw attention to myself -- in fact, I was perfectly fine sitting alone toward the back of the classroom. 

This, of course, never sat well with many of my most bubbly teachers and classmates, who often pressed me to come out of my shell, almost to the point of bullying. 

As I'll elaborate in future posts, many people conflate introversion with shyness. 

Perhaps someone has deemed you antisocial or stuck-up because you tend to keep to yourself. 

By definition, introversion refers to the direction of or tendency to direct one's thoughts and feelings toward oneself.

Though that may smack of selfishness to some, it's just the way we introverts are wired. In essence, introverts:
  • Draw energy inward. 
  • Become drained after heavy social interaction.
  • Loathe the spotlight. 
  • Recharge through solitude. 
  • Prefer written to verbal communication.
  • Prefer small groups to large crowds.
  • Enjoy solitary activities like reading and writing.
  • Like to gather their thoughts before speaking. 
  • Are usually content staying at home instead of being out and about. 
  • Have a couple of deep relationships as opposed to a slew of superficial ones. 
In a world that tends to reward the loud and showy, introverts can feel out of place.

For example, imagine what would happen if you were to disclose in a job interview that you possess the above qualities. 

If it's an employer that places a premium on teamwork, being quick on your feet, and schmoozing, they'll most likely toss your resume in the trash bin after you walk out the door. 

Those who are cast as "different" -- whether that means being more bookish and quiet than than others in the group -- tend to feel ostracized.  

Once some people get to know an introvert well, however, they reverse course and lament painting them as anything other than a decent, caring, bright person.

I look forward to impressing upon you just how wonderful being an introvert can be, though it certainly is not without its challenges. 

Ready to feel empowered? Happiness comes from within, so until you come to terms with your innate introverted tendencies, a fulfilling life will always elude you. 

Join me on this exciting journey of discovery and acceptance!

- Jeff M., Writer & Proud Introvert 


  1. I have been trying to connect with those who are disabled and also introverted. I definitely identify with many different things from these blogs


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