Skip to main content

Introverts do this and should never apologize for it

Introvert alone in nature

Ask any introvert to name one thing they're good at and chances are they will say "sitting in silence."

There is no denying it: Introverts can seem out of sorts in the loud, fast-paced world in which we live. 

With so many things vying for our attention -- from advertisements to text messages to social media alerts -- it can feel like an all-out assault on the senses.

And, yet, introverts know exactly what it takes to replenish their energy reserves: utter silence. 

Taking a deep breath and finding refuge in solitude -- whether at the park, library, or in our own car -- is what we do best (or at least one of the things we have a knack for).

When we pause, it allows us to reset and consider our options, our possibilities.

This allows us to strengthen ties with others -- from partners to co-workers -- and, more importantly, with ourselves. 

Because here's the thing: If introverts don't get their much-needed alone time, they'll be disinclined to interact with others. And if they don't interact with others for too long, they begin to feel a bit left out and irritable. It's truly a vicious cycle. 

There are those who fear silence, either because they have been conditioned to think it is socially frowned upon to enjoy one's own company, the person is an extrovert who thrives on having others around, or he/she doesn't know what it's like to plop down without a loud TV or chatty companion blaring away. 

Silence offers a myriad of benefits, including allowing us to:

  • Clear our heads
  • Become mindful
  • Nurture our inner voice 
  • Achieve self-awareness 
  • Enjoy solitary activities like reading 
Do you happen to fall into the group of those who fear solitude because they think it will induce loneliness? 

Solitude and loneliness are not one and the same. While loneliness is a negative state from which it can be hard to escape, solitude is a positive one people arrive at when aiming to relax and slow down the pace. 

Never let anyone guilt you into feeling weird or antisocial just because you want time for yourself. Not everyone understands how introverts are wired and just how crucial quiet tranquility is to our well-being. 

So if desiring solitude carries a negative stigma, so be it. Don't feel guilty about declining a party invitation or two if you feel you'd rather enjoy some time alone. Sometimes a good book, the ocean, or the moon is all the company we need. 


Popular posts from this blog

Introverts, find your voice -- and let it be heard!

Introverts are, by their very nature, unassuming.  The last thing we want to do is draw attention to ourselves, whether it be promoting our accomplishments at work in hopes of landing a promotion, talking up our best traits on a blind date, or speaking up when on the receiving end of someone's unseemly behavior. But finding our inner voice is imperative. We must never let anyone -- and that includes ourselves -- silence it. It doesn't mean you have to turn surly, treating others like they're beneath you.  But you should never let yourself become anyone's doormat either. You're your own chief advocate. If you don't stand up for yourself, no one will.  Never feel too embarrassed or guilty to speak honestly and respectfully in support of your goals, values, and beliefs.  I'm not saying you need to become a masterful public speaker, or that you should pretend to be a Know-It-All.  Instead, what I'm saying is never to let anyone suppress your voice. You have

Do introverts always want to be alone?

It's a common misconception that introverts want to be left alone all the time. Sure, we're not as prone as extroverts to becoming lonely and irritable in our own company, but that doesn't mean we avoid social interactions like the plague. We like to socialize, only in smaller doses than our more extroverted peers.  Here's how to keep us from exhausting our energy reserves: 1. Allow us small breaks to disconnect every now and then . Don't take offense to our wanting to go for a walk or take a nap. Perhaps we're drained after spending the day in drawn-out meetings.  2. A stampede of people? No, thanks.  Keep it to a small group of no more than 5 to 10 people, if possible. Introverts feel far more in their element when they can engage in one-on-one conversation. For us, more people usually translates to small talk on steroids. Needless to say, there aren't many things we loathe more than mindless chit-chat. 3. Don't block the exits. Heavy noise and commoti

My bumpy road to discovering I am an introvert

From an early age, I knew there was something about me -- my personality, my temperament -- that differentiated me from my peers. I just didn't know what it was. I sensed I was more retiring, less hungry for attention, and more at ease in solitude than most people.  Now that I'm an adult and comfortable in my introversion, I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm proud of my uniqueness, and every introvert on this page ought to be as well.  That isn't to say the road to self-awareness has been an easy one.  Whether at school or work, I've lost count of the number of people over the years who've either questioned or criticized my quiet, unassuming disposition.  In the workplace, supervisors and co-workers have pulled no punches with their biting sarcasm, saying things like "Hey, keep it down over here. You're too loud!" For whatever reason, it makes some folks uneasy when there's someone at work who keeps to themselves. They might suspect they&