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What introverts should do when labeled stuck-up or weird

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When someone deems you rude, weird, or stuck-up because of your introversion, what should you do?

Bask in and double down on your introversion, of course!

Don't even entertain the idea of changing to appease anyone, whether it be a friend, co-worker, or relative. 

People can call you anything they wish, but you know who you are deep inside. As long as you value your introversion, that's what ultimately matters. 

Most people don't comprehend what introversion is, even after ill-fated attempts to enlighten them. 

In all likelihood, you've tried to explain that introversion has to do with the way we draw energy (inward, of course).

Still, they carry on believing whatever they want to believe -- that we're self-centered, socially inept, and so on -- because it requires fewer mental resources. When in doubt, people would simply rather pass judgment. 

No amount of explanation will get through to some of these narrow-minded folks. 

They simply can't fathom an individual preferring to stay at home curled up with a book rather than venturing to the club. 

What's more, they may contest that a person could enjoy their own company at a library or bookstore when there are so many noisy, congested places to hit up with large groups of people.

It's as if we speak a different language. But that's okay.

Introverts are in the minority for a reason. But thanks to books like "Quiet" by Susan Cain, word is getting out that introverts deserve just as much respect and just as many opportunities to prove themselves as their louder, more extroverted counterparts. 

Introverts are no better than extroverts, but extroverts are no better than introverts either. We each bring a diverse set of gifts to the table. In the case of introverts, it's introspection, the keen ability to read people, empathy, language, and an insatiable drive to learn new things.

Don't let a soul push you to shed what makes you who you are. Just know there are countless people in the world like you (me included) who would be delighted to welcome you to the group!

Never let that Introvert Pride waver. Instead, let the naysayers fuel your desire to project authenticity to the world. 


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